I’ll never forget a particular episode of Wife Swap. In that memorable episode, one of the wives believed that she should be treated like a total princess. Her husband both supported the family financially and did all the housework. Her only job was to look good and enjoy herself.
Granted, looking good takes a lot of work for some of us. My husband knows to leave me be while I paint and spackle my face. But the attitude of the Wife Swap Princess lies in stark contrast to the Noble Wife described in Proverbs 31:10-31. Read through this passage and you’ll discover Supermom – she’s the perfect wife and mother, has her own business, does charity work, dresses fabulously, is an amazing seamstress, and even gives great advice.
And how do I measure up to that?
I’m not the perfect wife, not even semi-perfect. If I were, I wouldn’t have cut off a conversation with my husband to work on this post. Don’t judge me.
I’m still trying to figure out this mom thing, and don’t think that will change anytime soon.
I can barely write two blog posts a week, much less have my own business.
Charity work? Ha! Maybe someday, but right now I’m one of those that prays behind the scenes and isn’t able to do any actual work.
I am currently sporting pajama bottoms and an old T-shirt. Clinton and Stacy would have a field day with me.
I don’t sew unless a hot glue gun is involved.
And any advice that I dispense is largely ignored, which tells me that I’m no Dear Abby.
But there’s hope.
If I were to sum up the character of the Proverbs 31 woman in one sentence, I would choose verse 27 – “She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”
Now that seems attainable to me. But I may have to go about it in a, shall we say, non-traditional way. For example, learning to sew would be an exercise in futility, but I can shop the sales at Target. I may not be styling every single day, but I can do my best to look good when I go out with my husband. And I may not have my own business (yet), but I can clip coupons!
My very long-winded point is that we need to apply Proverbs 31 principles to the 21st century woman. That means that I can’t focus on learning how to crochet doilies (not that there’s anything wrong with that) or dressing in couture to greet my husband at the door when he gets home from work (not that there’s anything wrong with that). It also means that I have to acknowledge and incorporate tools and issues that are mainstays in the lives of 21st century women, like technology and time management challenges.
Let’s take a look at technology. It has infiltrated every areas of our lives and can be an incredible tool to home managers. Need to archive family photos and memories? There’s a techie way to do that. Need to ground your child? There’s a techie way to do that. Need to learn all there is to know about how to unstop a toilet or plan a vacation? There’s a techie way to do that!
But all that techie goodness requires some techie knowledge. In my last post, I shared my desire to write a series of posts explaining computer basics without the buzz words. My hope and prayer is that I can arm you with knowledge that will help you become more like that fabled Noble Wife.
Techie knowledge can help us to incorporate technology into the lives of 21st century Proverbs 31 women, but time management challenges require some planning and creativity.
I’ve found this especially true when wanting to have people over. As the mom of a ninth-month-old, having guests over would be an impossible task if I held myself to the standard of a meld of Proverbs 31 Woman and Martha Stewart. The mere thought of having people over would send me to a corner of my closet, rocking back and forth while chanting, “It’s a Good Thing. It’s a Good thing.”
But I can’t give up the idea of hospitality. Scripture commands us to be hospitable to each other with a good attitude, something difficult to achieve when you have a darling little cherub that needs almost constant attention. Even with my little cherub, though, Jesus’ command to love my neighbor reminds me that the purpose of hospitality – to express love to others – require that I try somehow.
So how do I reconcile the demands of modern life with the need to be hospitable?
I’d like to explore that topic on this here blog. I plan to devote Fridays to ideas for entertaining when you’re not a domestic diva. Off the top of my head, some possible blog topics are:
- How should I prepare for guests?
- What things do I need to have on hand so that I’m not running around like a crazy person before someone drops by?
- What are easy easy easy recipes that are great for entertaining but easy on my time and nerves?
Please let me know if you would also like to write blog posts in the spirit of easy easy easy entertaining. If you’ve found short-cuts to hosting a get-together and would like to share them with us, by all means let me know and I’ll set up a Mr. Linky.
The first Feel-At-Home Friday post will be up next Friday. The topic will be “quick before-company-gets-here checklist.” So think about what little checklist you’ve developed to make your place presentable before company arrives. Even if it involves doilies. Because there’s nothing wrong with that.