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Trying to get out of the quiet time doldrums

I didn’t know how selfish I was until I got married.  But motherhood has begun to kill the selfish parts of me.

I see this the most in the way I spend my time. So I thought this would be a good time for a couple of lists.

How I spent my time as a single woman:

  • Work
  • Quiet times / Bible study
  • Preparing Bible study lessons
  • Spending time with family
  • Reading (LOTS of reading)
  • Working out
  • Hanging out with friends
  • Mission trips / service opportunities
  • Sleep

How I spent my time as a married woman with no children:

  • Work
  • Quiet times / Bible study (although a little less frequent)
  • Spending time with my husband
  • Spending time with family
  • Reading (a lot LESS reading)
  • Hanging out with friends (although less time than I used to)
  • Sleep

And now…How I spend my time as a married woman with a baby:

  • Taking care of my son
  • Spending time with my husband
  • Spending time with family
  • Sleep

My list has shortened considerably. The Bookworm and quintessential Bible Study Girl now barely has time to crack a book. I can’t remember the last time I read a novel. And daily quiet times have become a struggle.

I’ve begun to realize that part of my struggle is that I’m putting too much pressure on myself to do quiet times the way I used to. Back in the day, I would spend an hour at least on my balcony, earphones playing worship music, while working on a Bible study workbook, doing some daily Bible reading, journaling and reading a book in the “Christian Life” genre. My biggest distraction was the cats trying to get outside to join me.

I don’t have that amount of time to myself every day anymore. I’ve been trying to learn to be happy if I can get through just half of a Bible study lesson before my little cherub wakes up from his nap. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, so this post by Priscilla Shirer really hit home for me. I needed this reminder to practice His Presence instead of getting hung up on not being able to do the things I used to do.

I still want to do my Bible studies when I can, but I plan to try a few other types of quiet times:

  • Reading to my son out of his Baby’s First Prayers book (an Easter gift from his Abuela).
  • Praying while I give him his morning bottle.
  • Praying for people I see in the news.
  • Storing Scripture to memorize on my iPhone for when I’m at red lights.

Any other ideas?

5 thoughts on “Trying to get out of the quiet time doldrums”

  1. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Just enjoy the life you’re living and the ones around you. Yes you need Leslie time, and Leslie and Garrett time, and family time too. Not enough hours in the day, I agree, but it’s not worth wasting time looking at what you can’t do anymore. Instead, cherish all the new things you are doing 🙂 You are truly blessed. I love you.

    Your long-lost cousin,


  2. Totally can relate! By far the best thing that has worked for me…is FrameChangers scripture on my digital frame in my kitchen (I call it “snacking” on God’s Word vs. when we had time to devour a 7 course meal of it) and Oswald Chambers “My Utmost for His Highest” by my bedside (super compact to the heart daily devo)!
    .-= Jen´s last blog ..Christian Valentine Gift Ideas for your loved ones! =-.

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